How to Be the Best Version of Yourself
It is possible to be the best version of yourself.
And you can be your best version starting now.
There is No Fake Self
One of the misconceptions of the self-help community is the idea of being authentic and real.
That we are fake and we must strive to find this authentic real self.
There is this subtle fear that in striving to become the best version of ourselves, we plant in our mind the idea that who we are now is a fake and inadequate self.
And we strive and strive but never reaching the best version of ourselves.
But the truth is that your best self is already with you.
It hides there in your mind waiting for you to act upon it.
No more shall we strive, we shall become it instead and embody our highest potential.
“You have all you need within you to become the best version of yourself.” – Mastin Kipp
Improving Vs. Content with Ourselves
How can I strive to be more and be content with myself at the same time?
We may believe that being content with ourselves mean that we no longer need to improve ourselves.
And that by striving to be more, we must not be content with ourselves.
But being content doesn’t mean to stop improving.
Since the world is always changing and you are always learning, you are always improving.
Day by day you are growing, learning and changing.
Realize that you CAN be content with yourself AND be able to improve yourself.
As long as you don’t attach the outcome with your identity, your ego, you will not fall.
To be content is to like who you are right now in the present.
By being content with who you are right now, you give permission to become better.
You no longer let the past influence your future.
You can be yourself and even more.
See the Vision of your Ideal Self
Imagine what it would be like if you can change for a day.
Who would you be if you can be anyone?
To be the best version of yourself, you have to see and know who this person is.
What is the best version of yourself? What is the personality of this self? And why do you admire this version?
This is your ideal self.
And your best version is not the same as someone’s else.
It is unique only to you and what you do best.
See in your mind’s eye a picture of your ideal self.
What does he look like? What is his morning like?
What does he wear? How does he carry himself?
Contemplate on this and really see the vision of your ideal self.
You can even use characters you admire to describe a quality of your ideal self.
For example, you think of famous detective Sherlock Holmes for reasoning and you imagine thunder god Thor for resilience.
And then think the thoughts of your ideal self.
Manifest his beliefs, his attitudes, and his reality.
Bring them here to the present inside your body.
Practice Becoming Your Best Version
To condition our physical body, we practice becoming our best version of ourselves.
When we see our new image, we act it out because we have to experience our ideal self in the world to make it real.
Go out there and give yourself permission to pretend to be your ideal self (even for a day).
Whenever you are stuck in a situation, ask yourself “What would my ideal self do in this situation?”
And then perform as if you were the ideal self.
Another technique is what I would call the “Scanner” technique.
For those who are more imaginative, you can use this one right before entering an event.
What you do is that you scan your body and then transform yourself into the best version of yourself.
It is like putting on a “Superman” outfit.
Then as you embody this version of yourself, let yourself experience it.
If your ideal self runs a mile a day, then let that vision guide you.
If your ideal self acts calm and poised, then let that vision guide you.
Don’t worry about how the future or the outcome will play out.
You are putting on the jacket of your Best Self and let your Best Self lead you.
Practice this and you will learn to become your Best Self.
“For the things we have to learn before we can do, we learn by doing.” – Aristotle
Can I Really Become the Greatest Version of Myself?
You may think that you are just playing around and will return back to normal at the end of the day.
You might even feel “fake” and “inauthentic”. But this is just resistance.
You can be anyone you choose to be if you let go.
There is more to the power of becoming your best self the more you act on it.
During the Standard prison experiment, a team of researchers put participants to play as either the guards or the college prisoners.
What happened was that the participants pretended to be guards for so long that they became the guard and forgot that they were participants.
And that the students acting as prisoners first made a joke out of it, but soon believed themselves to be an actual prisoner since they acted that role for so long.
This may not be the best example, but you can see how powerful our mind is.
When we identify ourselves as something, our mind will adopt it in our present experience.
Once we created our best self, and we identify with it and practice with it, we will soon become the best version of ourselves.