“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” ― Henry Ford
We all have goals we want to reach. Sometimes it becomes harder because there is a part of us holding us back.
This part of us ends up ruining our goals by self-sabotaging our own efforts.
It feels like nothing is working no matter what you do. You take one step forward and two steps back.
Our actions are largely influenced by what goes inside our mind. If we were to look at our deeply held beliefs, we would find the key to changing our life.
The reason why you are not achieving your goals is due to the limiting beliefs you have. By changing your limiting beliefs, you change your perspective. And your perspective determines your action. Your action determines your results.
What are Limiting Beliefs?
We all have our own beliefs.
Beliefs are our world-map to experiencing the world. It is how we live by, how we take action, and how we determine our reality.
In other words, beliefs are what we think is true about the world.
If you believe that people are kind, then it’s true that people are kind. You can give reasons why people are of good nature and you can draw from your own experience.
If you believe that people should be conservative, then you have every reason to think this is true.
When we experience tragic events in our lives, we come up with conclusions about the world that are discouraging and dis-empowering.
You may got chased and bitten by a dog so many times, you learned that dogs are something to be afraid of.
Limiting beliefs extend into our personal life goals and professional goals as well.
We block ourselves from new opportunities and potentials.
Our subconscious mind creates our own fear and obstacles. The real issue is that you won’t be aware that you even have a problem.
Here I will tell you how to change your limiting beliefs so that you can empower yourself to live the life you want.
Why consciously changing your beliefs doesn’t work
Since your beliefs reside in the subconscious mind, doing affirmations and consciously forcing yourself to change your beliefs will often backfire on you.
Every information we take in goes through a filter in our left brain hemisphere. Our way of seeing things are evaluated critically and are thrown away by our current beliefs.
This is why consciously changing your belief is challenging because your subconscious mind will resist all attempts of accepting new beliefs.
Think of it this way: your subconscious mind is the information cabinet storing files. If you have the belief that “I am not confident”, your subconscious mind resists when you consciously try to change it because this isn’t the belief it has on file.
To change your beliefs, you must engage your subconscious mind. Hack into the cabinet storing files and overwrite your current beliefs.
How to Change Your Limiting Beliefs
Imagine your friend is sobbing on a couch because she believed her boyfriend is cheating on her. She found someone else clothes at his house last night. Whether this is true or not is not what caused her pain. It is believing in the thought of it that caused her pain.
If the situation was untrue: you told her, “He isn’t like that. We both know what he is like. Remember that one time…?”
If the situation was true: you told her, “You can finally move on to someone better.”
What she believed wasn’t just the cheating, she believed he was the one and all her dreams for the future was ruined.
Because she changed what she believed was true, she no longer hold onto pain.
When you change what you think is true at the deep level, you will be able to make profound changes.
To change our beliefs, you change it using the active and passive method.
Active Belief Changing
By active, I do not mean to use your conscious mind. To change your belief actively, you will convince your subconscious mind via experience.
Your subconscious likes experience.
If you tell your that you are a confident person but you went into shy mode the moment you are in a group conversation, then your subconscious mind believes that you are shy and not confident. B
But little by little, you find easy experiences that proves that your new belief is true.
Start by finding the opposite of what you believe to be true. Go out with the intention of experiencing how true this is.
When you begin to feel good, take this as a mark of progress.
Passive Belief Changing
Passive doesn’t mean that you do nothing. It means that you don’t go prove your new belief outside in the world.
Instead, you find the new belief inside your own world.
To do this, you must bypass the conscious mind so that we give our subconscious mind what we want to change.
One of the ingredients to make subconscious changes is to access the alpha state consciousness. This is your state of mind that is more susceptible to suggestions.
Then use the power of visualization to create the scenario of your new belief.
Each limiting belief has an image. Allow your mind to define the image for you. Then visualize the image of your limiting belief transforming into your new empowering belief.
If your limiting belief is “I can’t clean”, then imagine yourself in black and white with a broom replaced by a colored version of yourself who love cleaning and does it well. Use your creativity to symbolize replacing your limiting belief.
We can face our limiting beliefs through repetitive suggestions to convince our subconscious mind the new beliefs. But every suggestions are made when entering the alpha state.
If you want to change your limiting beliefs, you change it from your subconscious by either active or passive method.
By changing your limiting beliefs, you are breaking your limitation and becoming closer to your empowered self.