Why Your Life is a Mess
When life is a mess, it means that we have no control over our circumstances. We leave everything to chance.
We eat whenever, exercise whenever, spend our money whenever. And we don’t know what to do with our life, with our relationship, with our career, and with our family.
Once we allow our life to float on by, it becomes a mess. And then one day we look in the mirror and realize that we need to change.
How to Get Your Life in Order
To get your life in order, you look at all the areas in your life: relationship, career, fitness, and personal growth.
Figure out exactly what you want to do in them, figure out how to do it best consistently, and then simply go out and do it.
We do that by making decisions on what we want in our life and then go do it.
This way we have some sense of control over our lives. Then it goes on autopilot and we have our life in order.
So let’s break it down.
Make decisions early
We normally don’t like to think a lot. After all, thinking and making decisions use a lot of mental energy.
Think about all the decisions you make on a daily basis:
- What do I wear?
- What do I eat?
- Should I go or not?
- Should I exercise?
- Should I go to that party?
- Can I make it?
- What’s due again?
- What do I have to pick up today?
- How much do I have to transfer to my savings?
Making tons of decisions everyday wastes a lot of time and a lot of energy.
These are energy you could be using to make your life better.
When your life is in order, you already know what to do.
All those little decisions are automatic now and you don’t need to make any.
You know what to wear, what to eat, when to exercise, whether you can make that party or networking event, and when to transfer your money. You know the best time to go home and the best way to handle your chores.
Now you have energy to work on side projects, to work on your passions, to relax and to just have fun. You have more time to do greater work instead of surviving on the daily decisions.
Make decisions early so you don’t have to make them everyday.
When your decision works, you naturally keep on doing it. Then it becomes automatic.
So let’s start with the first part of getting your life in order and how to make the decision to change it.
1. Pick an area of your life
Start with an area of your life you want to focus on.
This could be in relationship, career, finance, personal development, spirituality, etc.
2. Figure out what you want to do
You want to figure out what you want to do in this area. So research everything you can and use it in your life.
For example, you chose area in health and fitness.
You want to lose weight and look good. So you start researching what you should do to lose weight.
You find out that you should cut fast food, sodas, chips, boxed foods, etc. Perhaps you learn about eating less, workout more.
You might learn about vitamins, smoothies, fresh vegetables and healthy snacks.
3. Then implement and do it
Great! So you plan your breakfast, lunch and dinner according to that.
Of course you don’t want to keep researching for years and years to find the holy grail that fixes all your problems.
Just get enough information to take action and work on that. Taking action is more important because it teaches you what works and what doesn’t. Don’t get caught up in paralysis analysis.
And then when you achieve some results, you’ll naturally want to research further to improve yourself.
This is when you go deeper and find more information. Sometimes you find information that tells you not to do what you were doing.
For example, you find out that intermittent fasting can really help you and so you implement that. Or you find out that what you knew about fat is wrong and there is no specific fat reduction in the body.
These little tweaks will add up and before you know it, you will have your life in order.
Now you can do the same thing with relationship, finances, work, and recreational activities.
What about finance? How do you get your money in order?
You start by making a decision to get your money in order. Then you begin researching what you should do.
Let’s say you find out that it’s important to save 10% of your net income. So you do that.
If you earn $4000 / month gross but your net income is $2700, you save 10% and receive $270.
Now what if you learned that instead of using that 10% on your net income, you use it on your gross income. Why not pay yourself first?
This little insight saves you $400 instead of $270.
The fun really starts when you start thinking in more ways to cut back and save from the government by studying on how to better save on taxes, managing budget, and how you spend your time and money.
And then you may think to yourself, “I have all these money I save, what do I do with them?”
That is a journey you will continue to improve in your life. But all starts from making decisions on what to do first and then do them.
Having Your Life in Order Makes It Look Easy
Do you see all those people who seems to have their life together?
They make it look easy. They know what do and got everything “figured out.”
That is because they took the time to make decisions, research, come up with a strategy and implement, and kept on improving themselves.
What it requires is the discipline to do it consistently. Since it takes a long time to do, most people don’t want to do it.
The majority of people are, unfortunately, scattered-brain. This means that they are not focused, only drifting in life. Asleep.
But floating by is an exhausting way to live. It is better to make the hard decisions now so that we have an easier time to make our life look easy.