How to Live in Peace Without Becoming a Monk
Most of us are not at peace with ourselves.
There is always something wrong,
We have grudges, worry, and we are angry at someone.
All of these have negative effects on our mind and body.
And so we aim to have inner peace within ourselves.
But some people tend to go to the extreme and sold all their possessions, shaved their head, and lived in a mountain.
Of course, living this kind of lifestyle will get rid of the noisy environment of our current society.
Peace, however, is not only reserved for the monks.
It is for everyone.
And it doesn’t have to be in the mountains because peace is not where you are but what you are.
Peace is How You React to Others
You do not have to lose everything to be peaceful.
Let’s face it, it’s not practical to live this kind of environment.
Even if you did, you would only change the external and not the internal.
True peace is what happens on the inside despite where you are.
Peace is when you can handle all the crap that happens in your life.
So how would you do this?
Will you meditate? Dissociate? Take drugs?
What you will find is that if you apply this one principle, you will lessen the feeling of inner turmoil destroying your life.
When Things Don’t Go the Right Way
The first thing you must realize is that you get triggered when things don’t go your way.
We want things to go a certain way and we want people to act a certain way to us.
When that doesn’t happen, it’s easy for us to get angry.
Once you become frustrated, your energy becomes tense and rigid.
This rigid energy traps us and eats us while we go about our life.
To seek the peace within is to let go of this rigid energy that is eating us inside.
And the other way is to prevent that rigid energy to come into us in the first place.
As they say, “Prevention is the best cure.”
You have the Power to Choose
Sometimes we allow others to harm us because we think too quickly.
In the moment our judgments gets the best of us because it seems real in that moment.
So allow yourself to put off what an event means for awhile.
Because it’s only in time shall we truly see the lesson, the meaning, and the positivity of the event in higher perspective.
You can start to stay neutral at what the event really mean.
If you don’t, it is likely that your emotions will come into play and your judgment becomes clouded.
And the energy gets stuck inside of you, causing that rigid energy to eat you from the inside.
You won’t be at ease. In fact, you attain a dis-ease.
Letting Go of Rigid Energy Inside You
Holding onto rigid energy is like a pill for suicide – it slowly kills you.
That is why we must let go of negative energy inside us.
To let go of negative energy that binds you, you first want to bring it to awareness
So get in touch with your feelings about that one event.
Go back to that time in your memory and really feel yourself in that moment.
Now as you feel this negative energy, put all of that energy – all of that emotion – into your clenched fist.
Clench your fist as tightly as you can.
Then open your hand and let go of all that pent up energy.
Let it go. Let it Go. And Drop it.
See it fall as it leave your body for good.
When I do it, I would feel my body vibrationally shiver once the energy left my body.
And then I felt at peace. Truly at peace.
Don’t do it just once because you may not get all of the rigid energy to leave your body.
So hold the energy in again and let it go for the second and third time.
Forgive Yourself and Others
Your rigid energy has left your body and you no longer feel the frustration overtaking you.
This is peace, but temporary.
The way to prevent another event similar to this is to forgive yourself and others.
Once you do this, it will seal the deal and you shall have peace.
Love and forgive everyone.
And I know that it would be the last thing you would want to do.
What about that crappy boss? That annoying sister who drove me crazy? And that guy who screwed me over and caused me huge debt?
All the people who did me wrong?
In a way, you may be justified to seek vengeance or to believe that they are the one who is wrong.
But here is the thing: Everyone is doing the best they can with what they have.
The problem that we don’t realize is that we subconsciously impose our own standards on others.
And if they fail or could not meet them, we become frustrated.
We get anxious and lose control of ourselves.
Ultimately, we are not at peace.
Simply, we cannot make a man catch a fish but we can at least give them the seeds to catch one.
So have compassion for the people you meet, no matter how toxic or positive they are.
This does not mean you should be with toxic people or become one yourself, but that you can be in control of yourself.
Putting It All Together
Let’s say that your boss is treating you wrongly – no appreciation, criticism, puts you down, and pass you over.
You would feel completely justified in having anger, bitterness, jealousy, and depression.
So obviously, there are rigid energy inside you and you want to release this energy.
The more it stays in your body, the more it causes you stress which will manifest disease in your physical body.
Now once you put all of these emotions into your fist and let it all go, you feel at peace.
You take your boss’s behavior with a neutral perspective in time.
And then you are able to deal with people with this kind of behavior as you forgive yourself and people who act like this.
Maybe you’ll realize, by now, that your boss mistreats people because he has no friends or he lost his wife or even that his personality doesn’t match with yours.
Your perspective on your boss has extended and you no longer feel afflicted by his behavior.
Who knows? But you know it has nothing to do with you.
And you feel at peace even when things are out of your control.
Because you don’t need to control everything or everyone in your life.
You just need to control yourself and the greatest peace you can have is to have peace within yourself.