Is the fear of failure holding you back?
Are you afraid you won’t make it?
What happen if I fail? What will people think of me? Or what will I think of myself?
The biggest blockage to manifesting our desires is fearing that we will fail.
If we overcome the fear of failure, we will have the power to rise above it and manifest our success.
How to Overcome Fear of Failure
“A failure is not a loss. It’s a gain. You learn. You change. And You grow.” – Michael Barata
To succeed is to learn how to fail.
By failing, you learn how to succeed.
Failure is the one word that we desperately try to avoid.
If you look up on the definition of failure, it means “a lack of success.”
So if you are not succeeding, you are failing. Right?
But what is success? And more importantly…
What Does Success Mean to You?
When we want to achieve a goal, we forget to define what success means to us.
We must be crystal clear on what it means to succeed!
If your goal is to run 10 miles, what makes you a success?
If you were to get distracted every 2 miles, is that a failure?
And if you make it to 10 miles but ends up dying, does that still make you a success?
Success is relative to everyone, it depends on what we are trying to achieve.
The easiest way to have success is to not have a goal, then everything we do is a success!
But most likely, we want to achieve something that we set ourselves.
And if we are setting a goal, we must be clear on what it is that we want to do.
When we are certain of our goals, only then can we find the obstacles that are holding us back.
Do you know what is holding you back?
Of course, there are many things, but there is one obstacle specifically for attaining your goals.
The Fear of Mistakes
It is the fear of making mistakes itself.
Failure is making a mistake, to do something that is not what we envision to happen.
How does a baby learn to walk?
Does a baby turn away, ashamed of himself, and backs away from walking ever again after falling down?
No, a baby doesn’t understand failure because failure doesn’t exist.
So why do we allow failure to hold us back?
The Ego Stronghold
The fear of failure is tied to the need to be right.
The need to be right is the ego’s way to remain in his identity so that he doesn’t have to change.
This is why criticism is painful, it attacks the ego and its need to be right.
In early childhood, we were subconsciously programmed to believe in certain beliefs and attitudes.
Those beliefs and attitudes created the ego’s defense mechanism.
Although it protected you from occasional hurt, it is causing you to stop growing and learning in the long run.
And the ego will be keeping this belief and attitude for a long, long time…until you choose to change it.
Failure is in the Mind
Failure is in the mind of the beholder.
What failure means to you is in what you view “failure” in.
When we are on the bridge of failure, we view our event in a ‘life or death’ situation.
The “reptilian brain” takes over and you make decisions that don’t work in your favor.
There are two mistakes on failure that makes your goals stuck.
- Seeing that failure is the end instead of a feedback to change course
- Viewing failure as a reflection on themselves
When you view failure as a personal thing, you allow that shortcoming to affect your mental and emotional stability.
In a spiritual perspective, you welcome negative energy if you identify them as yourself.
Some people can start chatting up the opposite sex with no problem while others become a challenge.
When you believe that failure has to do with you, you create the challenge.
The successful guy doesn’t view rejection as part of himself, but that he had made a mistake in finding the right person.
The other guy believes that rejection is an all-or-nothing event. If he fails, it means there is something wrong with him.
Remember, this is a form of manifestation.
What you focus on, you shall receive.
If you focus on not losing and not failing, you will fail.
But if you focus on winning, you are likely to win.
Mistakes are not about You
Mistakes are the outcome of an action, an effect of a cause.
The more we view mistakes as something wrong with us, the more we are to want every step to be perfectly right.
Once you are on the path to trying to make everything perfect, you will fail because the reality we live in is not perfect.
I guarantee you that the path to failure is to follow these three things:
- take anything personally.
- be rigid and set in your ways.
- be afraid to make mistakes.
When you are taking things personally, remember that it has nothing to do with you personally.
Stop predicting. Start living.
Stop predicting the world and begin to live in the flow.
We are taught to plan everything.
We plan to make a list of groceries, we plan to make a date, we plan our careers and vacations.
But the truth is…none of what we plan ever goes according to plan.
Now some planning is good, but when over-planning meets the change of reality, you will be put face-to-face with reality.
The nature of reality is change.
Planning is the exercise of predictive thinking, but this kind of thinking only works in a world of predictability, which is not the nature of reality.
Be in the flow of the present moment and adjust to the change by the minute.
The conquering of mistakes begins with you.
Acknowledge the mistakes you make and change the world.
Let go the need to be certain with life and accept the uncertainty in your mind.
If we adopt a ‘growth mindset’ instead of a ‘fixed mindset’, we will be closer to succeeding anything we set our mind to.