Those voices in your head.
They won’t stop chattering.
When you started meditating, you stopped before you could get to a minute.
Because these voices kept shouting in your head.
And the more you try to keep going, the more irrelevant thoughts come up.
Thoughts like: ‘why do dogs eat fingernails?’ and ‘how many licks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie pop?’
You’re tempted to stop and look it up.
Sometimes the chattering mind wants a cookie in the middle of the night.
Sometimes he is judging your life and making “what ifs” scenarios your your head.
And, of course, sometimes he tells you to stop meditating and give up any endeavors you take.
The Mind Chattering
The internal dialogue is the constant chatter in our mind.
When we are not endlessly talking to others, we talk to ourselves without end.
The Buddha called it the “Monkey Brain” or the “Monkey Chattering” because the thoughts move around like highly energized monkeys.
In eastern studies, achieving inner silence is a lifelong pursuit.
But if you are planning to do anything with your mind, I encourage you that achieving inner silence should be accomplished early.
When we stop the inner chattering, we will then see that most things becomes attainable and all things possible.
Now psychologists would tell you that you should cope with your inner critic and consciously battle it.
They will tell you to actively listen to your chatterbox and give it room to speak.
But this method only delays the inevitable.
The chatterbox has nothing good to say to us and listening to it will be detrimental to silencing it.
You want to stop the chattering, not cope with it forever.
The “monkey brain” is like a real monkey.
Give it attention and it will want more attention.
Allow it to dominate you and it will dominate you.
To train a monkey, you must be the master of the monkey.
You must silence the monkey when you say so and not give it attention when it wants it.
How Mind Chattering Blocks Your Goals
Our life, and the majority of people, are controlled by this monkey brain.
And when the chattering takes control of your life, you can expect it to go to places you won’t expect.
You end up watching cat videos when you consciously choose to focus on your work.
In more harmful situations, the angry chattering mind can make you throw everything on the floor when angered and make you drive in the night without even knowing why.
When the monkey brain controls you, it is nearly impossible to be in the present and enjoy anything.
But when you control this internal dialogue, not only will the monkey in your head stop but he will help you achieve anything you set your mind to.
How to Stop Mind Chatter – Silencing the Mind
When we stop the inner critic, we usually think of stopping only the negative thoughts that roams our mind.
Thoughts such as “I am a failure” or “This will never work”.
But trying to stop only the negative side is just coping and coping doesn’t stop the mind chattering.
To stop the mind chatter, you stop all of your thinking (even the good thoughts).
Allow yourself to see differently.
To see differently, you must stop the world.
And to stop the world, we must stop our thoughts altogether.
Inner Silence Meditation
We can stop our thoughts through meditation.
But not just any meditation.
This is the inner silence meditation:
- Sit in front of a lit candle and gaze at the flame.
Your eyes may be strained because you won’t be able to blink.
The candle should be 4 ft. away from you.
It should also be at a good height so that you won’t strain your neck.
Flames are a good way to meditate because it is clear, vibrant and always moving so that we can continue to focus on it.
Our eyes are designed for novelty, to seek new stimuli.
This is why flames are important.
Each and every time a thought arises, you bring your attention back to the flames.
- Close your eyes and maintain image of the flame in your mind without thinking of anything else
When your eyelids begin to lower and your eyes want to close, it will close.
Now bring up the image of the flame you had awhile ago.
If you cannot visualize it well, return to look at the flame.
If you start to think of anything else, open your eyes to look at the flames.
- Eventually through practice you will stop talking to yourself
Any thoughts that arise should be ignored like ignoring a monkey who wants attention.
The “monkey brain” will try to mess with you with any and every kind of trick imaginable.
But when you ignore it, he will give up and you will become its master.
Attention is energy because energy follows where attention goes.
Do not give the mind chattering your energy.
Therefore, turn your back on your inner chattering no matter how much it is begging you or bargaining with you.
The key is in ignoring the thoughts as you focus on the flames.
You are NOT consciously trying to ignore the thoughts or consciously focus on the flames.
Any conscious action you take is a battle against the mind chatter.
This is why you let the flames’ fascination to capture you in the moment until thoughts dissipate.
Don’t have a candle? Substitute candle for “something that fascinates you that you could stare at it forever.”
When we stop our thinking, we open our other mind.
This opens a new voice – the voice of our intuition.