Those negative thoughts keep roaming in our mind. You think back: did that person really tried to harm me? Insult me? Why did they do the things they do? Why is this happening to me?
Time to re-frame our thoughts.
Why Re-frame Negative Thoughts
Research has shown that when something happens that is incomplete, we tend to look for answers to fill in that gap. The more we try to look for it, the more we fill those thoughts in our mind.
This will soon become our experience as our subconscious mind translates these dominant thoughts into action.
These thoughts overwhelm you, causing you pain and twisting reality.
And if you are asking questions like “why is this happening to me” or “what did I do?”, then we’ve disturbed our mental peace long enough.
So here’s the thing: we don’t know if something outside of us is truly our fault or has anything to do with us.
If we spend too much time on over-analyzing the situation, we’ll find proofs even though it might not be real.
And that’s why we have this powerful technique to re-frame our thoughts.
Re-framing Negative Thought Patterns
Re-framing is identifying the negative person or situation and replacing our negative thoughts toward that person or situation into positive thoughts.
When we change our perception, we change our reality. When we re-frame our dominant thoughts, we see things in a new way.
Re-frame our thoughts by looking back our experiences and transmute them into positive light.
There are 2 Ways to re-frame your thought patterns:
- Change the Result of your Visualization
- Challenging your Thoughts
Change the Result of Your Visualization
Your emotions are your feedback to what you are really thinking about, your true thoughts. Change how you feel about something and you change your thoughts.
We can change our feelings about someone or a situation with our imagination to re-create our internal representation of them.
For example, you bring up the person or the situation in your visualization. Picture the harsh and unpleasant experience and then change the result to something funny and positive. Imagine them in their underwear sort of thing.
Challenge your Thoughts
To challenge our thoughts, we ask many questions to our internal beliefs of the person or situation.
Ask yourself: Is it really true? What evidence makes it true?
This is powerful because questions like these makes us wonder about our own thinking.
Though most positive thinking advices would tell you to not have doubts, doubts can actually help you.
Doubts when in an emotionally charged situation can bring us back to neutral mentality.
When we realize that the situation is incomplete, we can let go of the fact and focus on our life. Don’t find the answer, keep questioning to allow your subconscious mind the time it needs to seek it out.
When it seems like our negative thoughts about the person or situation is out of control, we can question it to re-frame our initial thoughts.
Doubt your doubts. Doubt your Fears.
These 2 techniques are different: visualization uses subconscious changing while questioning is a conscious exercise. You will find one works better than the other.
Use these 2 techniques as how you see fit. The purpose of re-framing is to get the thoughts out of your mind. The goal is that you are able to transmute the negative thoughts about a person or situation into a positive or constructive use.
Here is Something You Can Do
Find a place, sit down, and be aware. If you do meditation, that will be just as good. You’ll find that there are a ton of thoughts flying around your head.
Watch the thoughts. When a dominant negative thoughts comes up, re-frame them either by visualizing or question the negative thoughts.
Don’t actively engage the negative thoughts, simply choose your thoughts.