What does it mean to destroy the ego?
Spiritual traditions had long say that you must kill the ego.
But it gives no clear-cut explanation, no origin of the meaning, nothing.
Thus, the word “Ego” is used in many ways without knowing its true worth.
Most spiritual people fear “Ego” as if its very word brings up shame.
They try their best not to be egotistic or be more ego-less as possible.
But this cycle of fear of the ego has manifested in creating more harm than good.
The origin of problem is in knowing what the Ego really means.
2 Wrong Uses of “Ego”
- It is used when one person feels hurt from a spiritually inclined person.
“Hurt people hurt people” – Sandra
It is well known that an emotionally damaged person will intend to inflict their pain to others.
The use of “Ego” in an argument to a spiritual person wishes to remove the status of “spiritual” with the other.
He believes that being spiritual is to mean a certain way of acting and talking that is holy and perfect.
Thus, by telling the spiritual person that he is in all ego, he overthrows the spiritual image to reveal how the spiritual person, too, is as emotionally damaged as he is.
That by making someone else feel how he feels, the other person will learn their lesson to not emotionally damage him again.
However, it is not just an emotionally damaged person but people whose expectations of what a spiritual person should act and talk like makes the standard of a spiritual person higher than the one who is still taking their first step toward their journey.
- Using the “kill the ego” as a way to manipulate and control them
There should be a purpose to kill the ego.
Killing the ego by itself does not mean that you become more spiritual.
Getting rid of the ego could be a means for the programmers to instill their own beliefs onto you.
The military kills the ego to their soldiers by yelling at them 24/7 and drilling in their heads how worthless the soldiers are until they become a Man.
You break them down to build them up.
But breaking down the ego does not mean that you automatically build yourself up.
In most cults, you find the guru abusing their students as a lesson of punishment to make them have less ego, less self-worth, so that the students become dependent on the guru.
Under the right leadership, the build up will make you a better person.
Under the wrong leadership, you become a puppet to the leader who will ‘drink the kool-aid’.
To get rid of the ego and then do nothing is to create a new mask.
What is the Ego?
Ego = Earth personality, Earth identity
Replace the word “Ego” with “Identity” and it all shall make sense.
Since we are a multi-dimensional being, Ego just refers to the conscious “You” that is right now on Earth.
But Ego in the spiritual sense does not mean “egotistic”, which means boastful, opinionated, and selfish.
When we say that a person is “All Ego”, we usually mean that we find them to have an exaggerated sense of self-importance.
Ego is not egotistic.
Everyone has an ego because it’s how they function on Earth, but only some people appear egotistical.
Ego is not Evil
It’s not evil folks.
The Earthly personality is just not aware of higher principles – like love and compassion.
Ego has no awareness of anything beyond its current conscious awareness.
Like an animal with no awareness of long term consequences, the ego have no awareness of higher knowledge.
Should I Get Rid of The Ego?
When you hear of getting rid of the ego, you think that you should be nothing.
You should have no self, no personality.
That you should be a colorless little flower.
Not only that but people will diagnose you as egotistic if you make a wrong choice.
It sounds like the consequences outweigh the good.
But Ego isn’t all that bad.
It’s not some evil darkness we must get rid of.
You shouldn’t get rid of the ego if you don’t know what you are doing.
The whole point of getting rid of the ego is to let the True Self to unfold from the mask.
The True Self is the spiritual ego, the identity of the Higher Self.
No, you shouldn’t get rid of the ego but only transmute the ego to the spiritual ego.
Aspire to the divine as you work your way as you are.
What Should I Do Instead?
You don’t fight fire with fire. You fight fire with water.
You don’t try to climb a rock that is in the way. You move to the side of the rock.
“What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.” Carl Gustav Jung
You essentially are trying to getting rid of the mask, to lessen the ego, through working your way up as you are.
But by telling yourself that you’re getting rid of the ego, your ego will become defensive and brings a 100x armored defense mechanism.
The ego is afraid of being killed, so it is useless to tell yourself that you plan to kill the ego.
Instead, recognize the patterns of the ego in the fearful state and acknowledge it without doing anything.
All that you are doing is to acknowledge “Fear” first.
Only then does the Ego not attack you or defend itself when you wish to attune with your True Self.
Once you recognize the illusion of fear, it cease to exist and you are able to attune with your more spiritual qualities.